This is just a venting post. I have no where else to really post this kinda thing and maybe I can get it off my chest here. Chime in if you want.
Why are custom videos so exhausting? I take breaks from buying videos for a while because of the money of course and then go back to buy some and that's no big deal. But I forget how much of a hassle it is to get a custom video until I try to get one after not getting any for a while and each time I feel like dammit this is why I stopped. First of all, why does it feel like these girls don't want money? It's not a random girl I found and asked her to do something she has never done before, this is what they do. It's always something and it's tiring. And it's not the content of the custom that's the problem because, due to past experience, I get it all out in the open from the first conversation. I find out right then and there what she's all about and if she will be ok with it from the start. So for all these cases I'm talking about right now they were all ok with it. And some of which I've gotten videos from before anyway. I think it comes down to just being lazy or not being serious. At best the video you're waiting for will get done and sent to you later than you discussed which is fucking annoying. If I plan on having that video on a particular day and ask her about it, then why is it so late? It's not free after all so that's part of the service you would think.
You can buy all kinds of videos but you don't know how good they will be and these manyvids type of videos aren't cheap. And I have a few fetishes but 2 main fetishes that I like to get videos about. And sometime you want to hear a certain kind of specific talk that you just don't get in other circumcised/foreskin themed videos. So that's when you need to get a custom.
I got a video from this one girl, she's sexy and has no problem with that sort of thing. It was great. I message her again and get no response. No big deal, I will wait . 1 day turns into 4 days, then turns into over a week. During that time I always overthink myself which is exhausting in its own right. So I message back saying things like did I do something wrong? Knowing I didn't. Then a day or so later I message again like hey is everything ok? No response. I'm the type of person that needs to actually know you're not doing the video for me or not. Let me know you're done with me so I can know that for a fact and move on to someone else. Now if you're thinking yea she might be done, just move on. It's not that easy because what happens a LOT is I think that same thought and move on and literally about a day after I pay someone else to do the exact request I was waiting on I get a reply like "hey! so so sorry, i wasn't checking my phone I'll totally do it for you!" ???? WHAT!? I'm not rich, I just paid another girl to do it and now you're back!? I've gotten messages like that from months ago where I forgot I even asked that particular girl to do it and I'm thinking is this even realistic? How do you check your email and go ok I guess I'll do his request from 2 months ago, let me reply to him...maybe their out of drugs and go for broke hoping people they didn't respond to will be there and ready give them money for something they asked for months prior. I mean can you imagine, as guys, you put it out there that you do customs and you leave your information for people to contact you and all you need to make money is to have your phone, and your face and that's it. Literally, the customs I'm talking about aren't even full body nude, with all kinds of crazy shit, it's just the girl talking essentially. Can you imagine how rich we would be? Girls can't seem to even get that right.
One time this girl sent me a video we talked and talked about for months and never got back to me. She stopped talking to me so we couldn't settle on the details of the custom. She wouldn't reply again and I was left hanging, didn't even know her info to send money. I forgot about it and then she sent me a video like a month later. I was like huh what's this, then she emailed me over and over asking for her money. Now she knows how to email doesn't she...? I didn't even realize that was the girl who never got back to me. What the fuck are they doing with themselves? She couldn't even reply to the email enough to know what I wanted or to tell me her name to pay her and just sends me a half done video with almost nothing we talked about? Pathetic. There's another one, she would complain on almost every youtube video that no one is sending her money and to hit her up if we're serious. This woman doesn't give her email, doesn't want to make a snapchat, or any other social and youtube is so stupid these days that anything slightly risque gets removed from the comments. So myself and a few other guys would be in the comments trying to keep the comment as clean as possible saying is there any other way to contact you? I am ready now if you want to discuss something. It's never happened. So I gave up on her. Later her video uploads kinda slowed down. Every once in a while she comes back complaining like an idiot that guys talk tough but don't want to cough up any money. This is bordering on mental illness. And she's not bluffing because she did a couple teaser videos for a while of exactly what I was looking for but refuses to give anyone a way to contact her to actually make the money doing what she is asking. And she was really good so it makes it that much more annoying but I'm done with her.
That last one kinda leads me to another problem. There's also a problem just getting in touch with certain people. On ManyVids if you want a custom from one of the girls you can't even message them most of the time. You aren't allowed to even if you previously bought a video from them! There are too many barriers up everywhere. In fact some of the girls on manyvids will give you a discount on their video if you buy from them in another way. I forgot what it's called but basically they try to get their points up and make you buy it from them for like 1 or 2 dollars cheaper and all you have to do is message them and guess what, you can't! Same with patreon. There's a few girls I've spoken to that I want to discuss customs with and they only want to talk about it on patreon only. No email, no snapchat, no nothing. Well the problem is you cannot message anyone on patreon unless you're buying their trash content. And that defeats the purpose if the point was to discuss a custom video in the first place. What about PornHub? There's a few pornhub girls I've waned customs from but you only get a custom by going to their page. No big deal right? You go their page and go to messages...but you're not allowed to message them. So you look for the button "Request a Custom" or something like that. And that will direct you to a page where you have to spend money to simply join some diamond service, I don't know what it's called. And that will unlock the ability for you to request a custom. So spend money so you can ask for something you may or may not get and who knows how long it will take for a response or if you will even get a response....no thanks. Some of them say request a custom on their site. But their site is just a link to modelhub that you again need to pay for before you can even message them. So again, no thanks. I don't deal with those anymore but I just had to add it for the ridiculous aspect of it. And OnlyFans is another one. I hate that entire business model.
Another thing is when I write a custom it's a rare thing for me. I like to request some things in general so that I don't know how it's going to be or what will happen. But for a real custom that I consider "special" I write it out. And I don't know about some of you guys but just writing turns me on so much that it takes forever for me to finish. I'm hard as a rock the second I start thinking and writing so I gotta take breaks or I'll end up exploding. So it's exhausting taking the time to write something out after checking with them, I'm so hard I can't think straight, and I may not hear back from them for weeks. I can do 1 week but that's if you're lucky. These last few times I took a different strategy. I jerked off to some good videos. And the very next day I sent my request to the girl I was talking to. This way I'm not worked up anymore. I thought to myself she can take 3 or 4 days to get back to me and I'll be fine because I'm already done with the script, and I already blew my load so I'm fine. But no responses after 5 days...it's so frustrating. And what's worse is I'm not even looking for the video itself necessarily in those 4 to 5 days, I'm looking for a response at all. I can't send the money until I know she's good with the request so when it takes a week or 2 that's pretty much 3 to 4 weeks because they don't start making the video before they respond. So if she responds 2 weeks later and says of course I can do it for you, I send the money and now the second part of waiting begins. And now I'm looking at possibly waiting another week and half and that's if she doesn't "forget" to make it or stop making videos all together. That's happened a few times too. There was this one girl who I got a good amount of custom videos from and aside from the usual annoyance of waiting and not sure when she would reply, she would send me my videos in SD ? like 360p. Her videos on youtube were 1080p. I would be like hey I will let this slide this time but next time can you send me the full HD video. After explaining and explaining she was like oh sorry! Next video 360p... video after that 360p. I talked to her about it again and must've pissed her off because she disappeared for months then came back and I got like 1 720p then another 360p. ? ...
So the girl I brought up earlier still hasn't gotten back to me and that puts me in a weird spot. I've been getting videos from her and this other girl recently and they are both good. But the problem is the other girl isn't as good as acting things out and getting into it as she is. And her voice isn't as sexy either. And like I mentioned earlier, I don't want to send the other girl the request only for the original to message me in 3 days saying she's so sorry and she will do it. ? So I've been writing another request to send to the other girl that I think she can do better hoping the original will message me soon. There's no problems with it and she's said and done those things in another video she did for me. (And she's done way more in other videos that I haven't requested but were uploaded by others online) And like I said I clear all that up in the beginning anyway so I'm just hoping she got busy and forgot, because these girls obviously don't take it seriously.
This is making me face the facts about something I've been wanting to do but always put off, whether it be for money, or the runaround I mentioned about patreon and pornhub, etc. I think it's time I just go for the big names. NatalieWonder, BettieBondage, TaraTainton, and so on. You know, the big ones. The problem there is going to be the runaround mentioned earlier, the wait, and the cost. And also a dramatic drop in the amount I can get due to the cost. I know it's going to be a lot based off their popularity alone. Even some of the youtube girls are more expensive than the rest. I'm not spending 30 or more on 3 to 5 minute videos that might be bad anymore. And ManyVids and OF and other sites not even giving you previews half the time. That's old. But do I want to spend possibly 100 from one of those big names and wait a month but get it exactly as I want. I don't even need to look up info on Tara to know it's going to be insanely expensive. But I really want one from BettieBondage. She's beautiful, has the best acting, amazing voice. And really gets into it. Her site lets you message her right away with the short idea of what you want and it says to give her 4 weeks to respond. So already looking at 1 month if she responds in exactly 4 weeks. Her response will either be yes, in that event you will tell her what you want and I'm not sure what that wait is going to be once you do that. Or the answer will be no. I don't expect a no. But we are honestly looking at about 2 months just to be realistic for a video you may not even be in the mood for once it's ready. And then there's the price. She doesn't have any listed so she will talk about that with you later if she accepts. And there's another thing to add on to these big ones. They charge even more if you want the video just for yourself as opposed to them also putting that video on their ManyVids or Clips4sale sites, and so on. So this is not cheap. Also if you go through all this do you really want to only get a 5 minute video after waiting months? Probably want a full 15 minutes at the least right? It's a lot of shit to weigh out. I've talked to girls who aren't even as popular or as good as those big names and I've gotten crazy price quotes. One wanted to charge me $80 a minute. ASMR Ginger is super popular and does amazing roleplays but they're like 200 bucks. Yea no thanks. I really wanted one from Lauren Louise but after figuring it would be about $90 bucks it turned out she can't even be messaged unless you're already paying for something. So yet another barrier with her. Just as well though.
It's also a hard thing to settle on knowing that if I do go for those big names I'm pretty much giving up on dozens of others I've gotten videos from because one video from one of them is going to be the price of like 20 potential videos I could have gotten. Might be just as well. For the past year or 2 getting a video from one of these big names has been on my mind all the time. They are top quality. But I ignore it because I don't have much money to spare on that. Well wish me luck I'm going to send BettieBondage a message when I have my head together and see how that goes. After all I'll be waiting 4 weeks just for the "yes, send the details and it will cost this much" or "no, sorry, too busy lately" or worse, no response at all.
If any of you have gotten customs by those types let me know your experience because obviously someone is getting a lot of videos from them. I have a pretty good list of those big names I mentioned that I want to try. Going to do some quick looking around on their sites or socials and see what's up with them before I settle on one and send a request. If you read this much thanks!
Just an update in case you guys have never looked into customs by these big names I've mentioned. I was writing the message but thought to do a little more looking before I hit send to avoid any awkwardness. Check out her price sheet. I can't post the image it looks like. Well anyway, 15 minutes is $200. ? This is why we trade videos lol.
