Stephanie
I am a woman. My first sexual partner was uncircumcised. I learned while with him that intact sex was better from researching it online. I wanted to date other intact men after we broke up, but it didn’t work out that way. I married a circumcised man and the sex was good, but as we approached our 40s I was having so much chafing and would be in pain for days or weeks.
Sex became terrifying for me, trying to hold on for him to orgasm while trying not to get too injured. If we used a condom it cut down on the chafing a lot but then he didn’t feel enough to have an orgasm. My husband was saying he preferred if we just didn’t have sex; it was not worth the trouble.
I knew the lack of foreskin glide was probably part of it, from my experience with my first partner (thank goodness for that, otherwise I’m not sure I would have known what was wrong). It took a lot of courage to talk to my husband about foreskin restoration, but I was desperate. I felt like penetrative sex was an important part of our intimacy and didn’t want to lose that in our marriage.
He initially pushed back and said I was just suggesting for him to modify his body because of a fetish or something, but he gave it a shot with and within three weeks we were able to have the best sex in years with no pain and more sexual response for him (more natural lube, longer orgasms). He realized that he liked how it was feeling, the skin was not bothering him as he had worried, and he decided to keep going further with restoration. He also bought more devices and tried out a variety (air inflation, etc) but I think he mainly uses weights.
It’s been about three months by this point. My husband has enough skin glide that there is zero friction for me and sex is just fun again. He has more control over orgasms and can come within a few seconds when he decides to. It feels better for both of us, and we have had more sex in the past three months than the past three years. Also, my husband says that restoration was a lot less hassle than he was expecting.
It feels more like we are sharing an experience now, and we can focus on each other and not worry so much about the mechanics of the sex (trying not to get chafed, trying to orgasm, etc). The most satisfying thing for me has been seeing my husband satisfied from orgasms – not like it was just a small hiccup that took him a lot of work to achieve, but like he actually felt something similar to what I feel. I used to feel sorry for him every time I had an orgasm because I had never seen him have anything like that while he was tightly circumcised. He also gets more relaxed after sex and it’s nice to cuddle afterwards with the afterglow.
With all the problems in the world, at least we finally have the fun, bonding sex that nature intended us to have!
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