Personal opinion

zigzag · 2021-03-27T15:54:19+00:00

Hi I'm new to this website and I have responded to other threads but this is my first created one. Yesterday I accidentally came across a old blog post by...

circhead

adamsilver wrote
circhead wrote
That's true, it just effects society so much and whether they are into it or not I don't want to hear all the bullshit about it from them. And they are shattered but I think that may be why they focus their attention on us make it about being weird to not be circumcised and regurgitating the same old crap about how it's cleaner or it's for religion. Funny enough I wasn't circumcised because that's our religion. It's just uncomfortable for me. I get tired of hearing about it either way because why is it brought up if she's not thinking about it.

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Yea, I'm pretty sure a lot of you guys just dont have the hang ups I do or experiences I do which is good for you lol. But for me if it's brought up I can't stop questioning it. I'm like Seinfeld, I gotta know all angles as to why she brought it up. And for some of you guys you probably don't care if she fucks you or blows you and says something about you not being cut. That's not how I am.
Picture it like this, we all know what topics make women uncomfortable right? If you get with a girl who's on the chunky side, I don't care what your personality is you are NOT going to draw attention to that even if she asks you how she looks. So imagine for a second that every time you hug her or spend time with her you say something like that "you're the first big girl I've been with, not that that matters" or "wow you're a thick girl, all my other girlfriends were super thin" or "damn, you ate all that? my ex couldn't even finish half of your first plate".
You know this is not happening lol. That's how I feel. Like I'm uncut, so why am I hearing about cut so much and not in a sexy positive way. So I just can't do it anymore.

I'm going to teach you a concept that will help you a lot from here on out with females or more feminine type people: The Shit Test. Girls and women, for whatever reason and I'm not even sure if they do it consciously, are always constantly trying to shit test others. This is especially true when they can find something they think you aren't sure of or fully confident in. Once they find a possible weakness they will shit test you about it. It could be anything. If you can spot your own mental weakness on any issue and prepare yourself for the inevitable shit test, the better off you will be in your own confidence and in how she sees you.

I'm usually ready for any weird disrespect type shit from them so I hear you.

DustyTrombone2

I hear you. I’m in my late 30’s now. I’ll tell you I feel completely different than I did in my early 20’s when I was very inexperienced sexually. It might be an age thing for you. I turned down sex so often in my late teens and early 20’s bc I was worried they might laugh or be grossed by my foreskin. As I amassed sexual partners I became more comfortable because I was hearing so much praise. Especially from partners I was with that either had limited experience to zero experience with uncut and they loved it. I’m at peace now and wish I shattered those mental demons that stopped me from getting laid in my younger years.

zigzag

First I want to say thank you to everyone for responding to my post it was my first one I started on this site. Also thanks to anyone who read all my posts I know they are long and boring sometimes I am working on it! Coworkers tell me all the time I talk too much lol.

As regards to being worried about what women would think or turning down sex because you're worried of being insulted or hurt my experience will be different from you guys. I'm from a different country (canada) so I do believe there is automatically a difference in how women would respond.

I'm not trying to bash american girls I know they're not all the same and lots are probably very sweet just that they have been groomed from birth to think uncut guys are different or even unhygienic. Also majority of Americans are cut so that's what girls get used to seeing.

In canada it's just different uncut is more common and recently 2 thirds of babies here are left intact so girls here are less surprised when they encounter someone who's uncut. But I do believe that shouldn't effect sex life.

I myself is almost 40 and it took a while to accept myself. I too had self esteem issues still do a little despite being married. But to be honest I never turned away sex or actually had a girl even bring up that I'm uncut. Maybe I was just naive but when I got with a girl or started dating one I wasn't worried that me being uncircumcised would effect anything. But once I started seeing stuff mainly online and shows insulting uncut guys I really started to think low of myself.

But I decided when I was young to say screw it I am who I am and if I ever meet a girl who doesn't like that I have foreskin then screw her she's not worth it. It never happened but I do feel having this mentality will help anyone who's worried on what others might think. I have been working really hard on getting over my self esteem issues and honestly ever since I got married I too am more at peace with myself. I hope I helped with my answer accepting yourself is a big step.

circhead

DustyTrombone2 wrote
I hear you. I’m in my late 30’s now. I’ll tell you I feel completely different than I did in my early 20’s when I was very inexperienced sexually. It might be an age thing for you. I turned down sex so often in my late teens and early 20’s bc I was worried they might laugh or be grossed by my foreskin. As I amassed sexual partners I became more comfortable because I was hearing so much praise. Especially from partners I was with that either had limited experience to zero experience with uncut and they loved it. I’m at peace now and wish I shattered those mental demons that stopped me from getting laid in my younger years.

Thanks man

ffetish

I'm on the U.S. West Coast which is slightly better on this than the mid west or east coast.

I can only think of one girl that actually expressed a preference for circumcised penises while we were together and she wasn't nasty about it she just asked why I wasn't. Still the comment was a pretty big tip off (pun not intentional) that she had a preference. I did have one girl friend that I think actually preferred intact members, probably because a long time ex of hers was intact.

The insecurity definitely comes much more from media than actual experiences. I'm not in the habit of dating women that are so vapid and superficial that they would make an issue out of something so inconsequential, especially once were already engaging in foreplay. Still my underwear tends to be last item of cloths to go, which says something about how deeply this shit can sink into your head.

Of course women have it much harder, they are body shamed a hundred times worse then men are, Aside from all the standard tropes about weight, breast size, and pubic hair. I have a friend who talks incessantly about which of the women he's been with have the "best" looking vulvas. Its pretty nauseating and it feeds into the vaginal "rejuvenation" chop shop that can damage women's sexual functioning as much or worse than circumcision.

Some_guy

ffetish wrote
I'm on the U.S. West Coast which is slightly better on this than the mid west or east coast.

I can only think of one girl that actually expressed a preference for circumcised penises while we were together and she wasn't nasty about it she just asked why I wasn't. Still the comment was a pretty big tip off (pun not intentional) that she had a preference. I did have one girl friend that I think actually preferred intact members, probably because a long time ex of hers was intact.

The insecurity definitely comes much more from media than actual experiences. I'm not in the habit of dating women that are so vapid and superficial that they would make an issue out of something so inconsequential, especially once were already engaging in foreplay. Still my underwear tends to be last item of cloths to go, which says something about how deeply this shit can sink into your head.

Of course women have it much harder, they are body shamed a hundred times worse then men are, Aside from all the standard tropes about weight, breast size, and pubic hair. I have a friend who talks incessantly about which of the women he's been with have the "best" looking vulvas. Its pretty nauseating and it feeds into the vaginal "rejuvenation" chop shop that can damage women's sexual functioning as much or worse than circumcision.

I'm glad somebody is looking at this from a woman point of view. I'm so sick of hearing tone deaf ranting on this site

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